Like everyone else, I watched The Social Dilemma recently. I felt disturbed as well, but more so by the documentary’s framing of the issues than by the dystopian state of the world it so comprehensively portrays. I’m concerned that it presents a limited view that could adversely shape our perceptions…
I wish I could offer you a hug. I’m sharing my own story of loneliness instead, because it has a happy ending. And because I did not know that there could be a happy ending, or even what it would look like.
This “happy ending” isn’t an achievement of some…
I often meet people who tell me, implicitly or explicitly, that they have lost hope — hope of ever getting out of a pattern of bad relationships, hope of ever finding a partner, hope of ever feeling whole or vibrant again. Or that they simply find it dangerous to hope…
Letting go is especially difficult when you experience romantic heartbreak. Seemingly overnight there are new uncertainties, new voids in your life to fill, and difficult emotions and memories to boot. Anxieties and fears can pile on mercilessly.
And yet, it’s precisely at such times that letting go can help you…
That got your attention, didn’t it?
Well, for the past few years, I’ve had a pretty committed guy in my life. Here he is, pictured with me. I lovingly call him “Panda”. (I know, very imaginative.)
Now that I’ve set the stage, you know this isn’t going to be the…
When your heart breaks, you might feel you’re better off never weathering the uncertainties of love or bearing that kind of pain again. So you close off, numb your feelings, and build a protective shell around your heart.
But that is a robot-like existence, dear reader, one where “you shall…
A TED talk on how to fix a broken heart has been making the rounds on many a forum devoted to heartbreak and divorce. The speaker, Guy Winch, is a psychologist who also recently authored a Scientific American article on how to recover from romantic heartbreak.
Guy advises his audience…
Recently, a young woman told me that she was feeling vindicated because her ex, with whom she’d had a bad breakup, had reached out to apologize for his bad behavior. His attempts to make amends comforted her because she took it as evidence that she hadn’t been crazy or unreasonable.
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In your darkest moments, when your heart feels tender and broken wide open, I hope you’ll turn to the wisdom of the poets. A good poem can act as a balm for your soul as well as prepare you for the truths you’ll rediscover at this time.
