Everything you need to know about sex after a serious breakup

That got your attention, didn’t it?

Well, for the past few years, I’ve had a pretty committed guy in my life. Here he is, pictured with me. I lovingly call him “Panda”. (I know, very imaginative.)

Now that I’ve set the stage, you know this isn’t going to be the racy article you were expecting.

It’s more like a few pointers that I want you to consider while you’re in that very vulnerable place after a serious breakup. I’ve come across enough stories of people badly hurting themselves or others, or making terrible life decisions such as second marriages they later regret, that I want to share these insights.

Some believe you absolutely must have shameless sex after the end of a partnership (as a tool for rediscovery and healing). Although it may work for some people, for others an unbridled move into physical intimacy can become a crutch or be ultimately damaging. I hope you’ll find an arrangement that is right for you and doesn’t distract you from doing the inner work of rebuilding yourself into a healthy individual on your own.

#1: You’re more vulnerable than you think

The authors of Not Your Mother’s Divorce explain that our judgment is shaky in the wake of a serious breakup, and we…